DEAR ABBY: My girlfriend, whom I have known for many years, remarried her ex-husband a few years ago. I didn’t know her when she was married to him the first time.

He's an elderly man with a tremor in his hands, and a social outing could go bad if he accidentally fires the weapon.

My girlfriend, whom I have known for many years, remarried her ex-husband a few years ago. I didn’t know her when she was married to him the first time. My husband and I don’t like him. The last time we met for lunch,

Dear Annie: Spending time with one of my closest friends has become exhausting. She constantly talks about how unhappy and lonely she is and then pressures me to make future plans -- even while we’re already together. She doesn’t take steps to improve her life, has no hobbies or interests, and our conversations often feel dull.

But after years of politely dodging her constant requests, I’m frustrated and drained. Is this friendship worth saving? Am I wrong for not wanting to give more? — Feeling Drained Dear Drained: You are not a bad person for having boundaries.